Positive Results by Sabrina

It feels like that’s what I’m working most to remind you today and everyday. Life can feel rough. You’re overwhelmed by the stress, pain and sadness all around us. You’ve lost sight of who you are and who you thought you would be by now. You’re losing momentum with your goals because life keeps throwing obstacles in your path and you’re afraid the finish line is further away than when you started. But you’re not alone.

Those obstacles may seem impossible when you’re trying to conquer them on your own. “Many hands make light work.” When you have help, you can accomplish more. There’s a reason ‘they’ say it takes a village, right? It takes a village to raise children but it also takes a village to raise healthy, happy adults. We were not meant to traverse this life alone everyday. During the pandemic many people realized what a lot of us already knew…

Loneliness can be deadly. 

Trying to see your way through the darkness on your own can be deadly. 

You need other people to help you see the light, to help you see around the boulders, or to hold your hand when the road gets really steep. 

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I’m building a new mom’s group while also helping my friend build a new running group. The theme is the same, we need COMMUNITY. It does not matter whether you have a family or if you’re a sexy single, you can get lonely when you don’t have the people around you to talk through the good and the bad parts of your day. Building a community of people who share some of the same habits and interests that you do, will help keep you going each day. On the really bad days, your community and goals will drag you out of bed. On the great days, they’ll help you jump out of bed filled with excitement.

“My partner is my best friend. We talk about everything.” But who do you talk to when you’re mad at your partner? Who do you talk to when you want to surprise your partner? All of the years I spent in the romance business exposed me to some of the most amazing and some of the most toxic relationships. It doesn’t matter how amazing your partner is, you need someone to talk to outside of them sometimes.

A great friend also taught me that you need people outside of your family to share your deepest emotions with, especially about your relationship. 9 times out of 10, your family’s number one concern is you. If you complain to your family about your partner, or vice versa, they’re going to file that away in their never ending memory bank. You need neutral people outside of the family to complain to that won’t bring it up in the future or hold it against you in any way.

Sometimes, you need those friends who are brave enough to be brutally honest with you. We’re not just talking about the friend that is honest enough to tell you that the shirt you bought on sale isn’t really your color. We’re talking about the friends that are going to tell you when your vices are taking over your life, when you’re making dangerous choices and when you need a big dose of reality to straighten out your life. These doses of reality can hurt, but I can tell you from personal experience, when you’re on the other side of it, you’ll thank them. I was the person who didn’t listen to the gentle nudges that were offered to me. When I got to the otherside of the darkness, I asked my loved ones repeatedly why they didn’t try to pull me out harder. I remember referencing the old religious parable about the man in the flood refusing the help that was offered to him. He turned down the truck, the boat and the helicopter that came to rescue him and then blamed God for his death. “When he asked God why he failed to save him, God replied, ‘I sent you a truck, a boat and a helicopter. What more did you need?” 

We’re here to help you. We’re here to help each other. You just have to be open to and accept the help. It’s ok to admit that you don’t know what you need. In truth, that’s common. We often can’t see the darkness when we’re inside of it. We also can’t see beyond it to know how to get out. We have to remain open to assistance from the people who want to help us build the path into the light. 

As a coach, I help women build the path from where they are today to where they dream about being in the future. When they’re not sure where that is, we just work on building the path forward. One inch, one step or one percent better each day. “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, you just have to take the first step.”

Today, at this moment, do you need someone to take your hand and help you take the first step or is there someone behind you that needs you to take their hand?

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Who is Coach Sabrina Lott?

I help curvy, high-achieving women of color become the athletes they want to be; strong, consistent, and confident, while balancing their careers, families, and fulfilling lives. My coaching is designed for women who want to build real endurance, feel good in their bodies, and show up fully in races, vacations, and everyday life while leaving behind the shame, burnout, and feelings of having to shrink themselves to fit traditional fitness spaces. I provide hope, structure, support, and community that celebrates who you are, helping you create a lifestyle dedicated to finally feeling powerful, seen, and unstoppable!